I know this is not the norm for a blog but keep reading and hopefully it will explain this final post. I am Jackie’s Husband to be and will have to admit very social media illiterate She had mentioned that she was doing a Social Media Digital Communications course and I was indifferent to the situation and let her do her thing most evenings and weekends without any biased opinions one way or another. Keeping in mind that the only thing I am on the internet for is to check work email and see what kind of deals are on Kijiji.
Recently I asked to see what her blog was about. Jackie was hesitant for me to read her blog initially but eventually agreed and let me read her posts from the very beginning to the end. I’m now grateful to have the chance to be involved in her new adventure and understand what she is doing. I am a man of very few emotions and even fewer words as she will attest to, but reading this hit the heart and I thought I’d like to chime in.
Reading Jackie’s posts were somewhat inspiring as it made me think back on my things I swore I wouldn’t do and my life lessons.
I came from a broken home and witnessed difficult relationships that didn’t work. I was afraid that I would live what I had learned and so I decided I was going to live every man’s dream but on my own. I Had a great career, owned my own house, had lots of toys. What else could a guy want? Right? Wrong!
That’s were Jackie comes in. There is a time where your mind shifts from what would my life be like with this person to I can’t live without this person. Something I swore I would never do and yet here I was in that position when Jackie came into my life.
What I have learned over the years is that our lives are full of things we swore we would never do and lots of life lessons! Sometimes these things will lead you to your biggest life lesson and your thankful it did!
I have known Jackie for a lifetime to some! We met over 20 years ago and have stayed in touch periodically over the years. Circumstances had led us to be periodic acquaintances in each other’s live for most of that 20 some years but we managed to stay in touch as occasional friends. I was busy with my career and she was busy learning her own life lessons. Life isn’t easy and there is no manual to it! What I do know is the life lessons that we go through on this journey is what makes us human.
There came a time that the circumstances in our lives threw us back together but did not pull us apart this time. We were both finally in the same place at the same time. Our friendship finally had time to grow and develop into something more.
We are to be married in less than an month and to be honest if there wasn’t any bumps in the road it would have worried me. I have learned that everyone has regrets, things they would change but it builds character, and helps to develop your current life circumstances. My belief is that was not the right time for us to be together before now. We were both busy growing and learning lessons to prepare us for each other and because of that, on August 19th I am marrying my best friend.
Day to day you can pick things in your life that you would change, but ONLY YOU can decide the things that you wouldn’t change in your life. In the end hopefully the things you wouldn’t change outweigh your regrets. Personally for me I feel like I’m finally in that place with my new family. I can’t help but wonder what my life would be like if Jackie had not stepped back into it? That is one, what if, that I hope to never discover..
This will be Jackie’s last blog post but I can tell you that we both have learned something from this exercise.